I don’t know how many times I’ve talked about this to someone because they didn’t quite understand why the world was so hush-hush about female sex toys. Apparently, the taboo is still going strong, although things aren’t quite as bad as they used to be. Back in the day, women weren’t even afforded the luxury of having an officially recognized orgasm. Believed to be made for procreation only, the female genitalia was virtually ignored by the mainstream until just recently. And since the experts didn’t acknowledge it, neither did many partners in the bedroom. What resulted was an inevitable shift in the way us girls enjoy sex and masturbation.
Some of the most influential women in my family had front row seats during the sexual revolution of the 1960s and 70s. Having been forced to obtain their “marital aids” through a doctor for things like hysteria and anxiety, ladies of the latter part of the century got tired of playing by the made up rules of society. Sexually frustrated women finally rose up against the orgasmic oppression, inspiring the launch of what has become one of the biggest industries in the world. No longer viewed as imaginary, the female orgasm is not only recognized but also supported and explored through innovative sex toys geared specifically for the weaker sex’s anatomy.
The problem is no longer the suppression of female sexuality. On the contrary, the modern-day market is so full of options that nobody would ever guess there was ever a shortage in the first place. Inundated with choice and slapped in the face with attention-getting advertisements that can be somewhat misleading, the average lady has no idea what to look for, let alone what to spend her money on. There once was a belief that all sex toys for women were the same – a dildo was a dildo was a dildo, so-to-speak. However, after several decades of trial and error, the most discerning women among us have discovered that the subtle differences make the biggest impact.
As such, the sex toy market only ballooned into something bigger as manufacturers tried to satisfy the increasing demand. The horny honeys of the world then started becoming restless for a map to the treasure chest, while bloggers like me scrambled to create a concise yet comprehensive guide to help them sift through the rubble. And considering the fact that nobody teaches you these things, it can be very easy to turn your back on the whole idea of self-pleasure with a sex toy altogether. I’ve seen bad toys and/or poor toy selection ruin a person’s entire demeanor. Things are certainly complicated, but there’s still a glimmer of hope for the ladies looking to buy a high-quality product.
- What Is a Sex Toy for Women?
- Why a Female Sex Toy Though?
- The Top 5 Ways to Tell If That Female Sex Toy Is Worth It or Not
- The Big Ten: My Top 10 Best Sex Toys for Women In 2019:
- #1 – The nJoy Eleven Stainless-Steel Dildo
- #2 – Pipedream Extreme Fuck Me Silly Ride On Dude
- #3 – The Fun Factory Stronic Real Thrusting Vibrator
- #4 – The UPRIZE RC Erecting Dildo Vibrator
- #5 – The Tantus Feeldoe More Strapless Strap-On Dildo
- #6 – The Clone-a-Willy and Balls Kit
- #7 – The We-Vibe Womanizer Duo
- #8 – Lelo Insignia Soraya
- #9 -The Pipedream Extreme Male Sex Doll
- The End Game
What Is a Sex Toy for Women?
Discovering the perfect product requires some knowledge and insight, not just a few recommendations and a customer review or two. If I had a penny for every time I caught someone searching for the wrong toy because they didn’t know any better, I’d be a full-fledged millionaire with a matching attitude. It’s important to know what you’re dealing with because, like I said, the market has expanded in every direction to accommodate the tastes of the individual. The fact that you’re forced to do your homework should be overshadowed by the fact that your sex and masturbation game is now more customizable than ever.
With that said, let’s begin by defining what a female sex toy is (and isn’t). In general, genital penetration devices and/or clitoral stimulation apparatuses are considered sex toys for the female form. However, anal playthings and products made specifically for certain erogenous zones can be classified as a female sex toy if they’re used on a woman’s body. On the other hand, sex toys for women are usually designed and used to produce orgasmic pleasure through vaginal, clitoral and/or nipple stimulation only. Some of the more innovative manufacturers have started making toys with multi-function features, but those complex devices will probably never take the place of the classics like the dildo, the vibrator, the pussy pump or the clit sucker.
Dildos make up a large portion of the modern-day female sex toy market, especially since they’re one of the oldest self-pleasure tools to be invented. In fact, archaeologists have uncovered thousands of ancient stone and chalk relics carved into the shape of a penis. Obviously, people have been able to appreciate the properties of this well-formed phallus for centuries. Today’s dildos may not be made out of organic materials anymore, but they’re still designed to produce the same great pleasures that our gender and culture have come to know and love. Some dildos are less realistic than others, yet the main purpose is always apparent: To stimulate the g-spot through penetration and/or sensual thrusting. Some things never get old.
Second only to dildos, vibrators add an extra punch of pleasure to an already terrific sex toy. There are many types of vibrating sex toys for women, but the two most common options are vibrating dildos and insertable bullets. Both have their place in the contemporary girl’s bedroom, but they do very different things. Vibrators attached to dildos require thrusting and penetration, while bullets can be inserted into the vagina and operated externally through a remote control. There are specialized vibrators for clitoral stimulation as well. Known as a “rabbit” vibe, these female sex toys jiggle and joust your clit while often being integrated into a full-sized dildo for dual pleasure potential. Certain things are just fundamentally awesome; so if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
- Clitoral Stimulators
Classified separately from general vibrators because vibe-based toys can be used either internally or externally, clitoral stimulators are for external use only and for a good reason. Made to force a clitoral orgasm and/or gushing ejaculation (AKA: squirting), these finely tuned female sex toys “float your boat” in a more literal way than most women realize. Today’s manufacturers utilize a variety of techniques to get that job done too, from integrating simple vibrations or suction to using more high-tech methods like sonic waves and motion-sensing controls. And while most clit stimulators can’t be linked or synced with another sex toy, contemporary designers have started incorporating the clit-stim idea into the concepts when making other things like dildos, vibrators and anal pleasure devices.
- Pussy Pumps
Similar to suction-based clitoral stimulators but not nearly the same thing, pussy pumps are more about enhancing pleasure potential than they are about producing it. Yes, a pussy pump can get you off if you enjoy the sensations, but the main idea is for the device to increase blood flow to the vagina so that it swells and becomes more sensitive to the touch. Not only is a swollen vagina more attractive to some partners but it also makes orgasm far more intense without the user needing medicinal or topical intervention of any other kind. Best of all, these sexy self-improvement machines are shaped exclusively for the female form and can usually be closely customized to the size of your body as well.
- Chastity Devices
Popular in the bondage and dominance communities, female chastity devices are a one-of-a-kind type of sex toy that often requires a specific sexual appetite to enjoy. Designed to prevent the wearer from being sexually pleasured in any way, BDSM CDs cause zero pain outside of the torture of longing and frustration. There’s been a bit of a crossover from the bondage scene to the mainstream in the last few years though, as chastity devices for women are now viewed as a sensual and empowering device that can either establish and support the confines of a trusted relationship or provide the wearer with additional security and control during perilous or tempting times. It’s all about the pussy power, girls; and sometimes it’s about what you don’t have to offer.
- BDSM Torture Tools
There’s a relatively small yet equally enticing category of female sex toys that every lady should be aware of. BDSM torture tools can be extremely stimulating if you use them right, so don’t let the word “torture” throw you off. Think instead of devices such as pussy clamps, feather ticklers, whips and floggers. Those things have the power to torture your body in a million different ways, so open your mind and entertain the idea of being teased and/or punished into submission. An obedient and involuntarily humbled girl can make the right partner jizz in their pants.
- Anal Stimulators
The female ass is good for more than just looking at and the modern sex toy industry is well aware of that (finally). Ladies now have access to things like anal beads and butt plugs, giving a much-deserved rise and respect to back door stimulation in the hen house. Anal beads feature a series of undulating balls that should be inserted and removed in a rapid motion. Butt plugs, on the other hand, are made to stay put during singular and/or dual penetration. As it turns out, the ladies not only have an orgasm and a clitoris (that’s right guys, we have a clit…find it), we also have a pleasure zone in our anal cavity just like the men. By the way, many of them are just now discovering their own p-spot, so let’s give them some time to catch up.
Trust me when I say that knowing all of this has a very worthy purpose. Realizing your options and understanding what each one does can help you determine which product to add to your collection no matter what stage of life you’re on. What I mean is that your experience level doesn’t affect the fact that certain truths never fail. Appreciate the market influx but always keep one eye open for new developments. I’d hate for you to become a know-it-all and miss out on something great. I’ll keep you posted if I find anything, and you do the same. Deal?
Why a Female Sex Toy Though?
Being a cheerleader for self-induced orgasms isn’t something I thought I’d ever have to do. After all, doesn’t the extreme pleasure of a good sexual climax speak for itself? Apparently not, because too many women are still relying solely on their innately flawed and somewhat selfish human partner to satisfy all their intimacy needs. At a certain point, incorporating marital aids is just a natural part of the process. At least that’s what I thought until I found out that the opposite was actually true. I have never been more disappointed with my own gender in all my life.
Girls, let’s step our sex game up, shall we? I mean, we already suffered through so much sensual oppression, isn’t it time we started getting what we deserve? Feminist or not, there are at least 10 scientifically-proven benefits to having a decent orgasm. If that requires the help of a manmade machine, then so be it. And if you happen to be one of the lucky ladies who’s already on board with the whole self-pleasure device thing, do me a favor and help spread the word about these 5 advantages to using a female sex toy:
- Improved Orgasm Quality
Specially designed sex toys for women can drastically improve the potency and duration of your climax, whether used with or without a partner. It’s sometimes impossible to get in the mood for sex at the same time, and maintaining passion is difficult too. Female sex toys not only boost your orgasmic power but they also serve as a pleasurable substitute when a willing partner isn’t around or willing/able to participate. With a customized product that has the right features, your orgasmic quality will never be the same. If you want something done right, you have to do it yourself sometimes.
- Substantial Technique Practice
Using a female sex toy isn’t just about improving your own pleasure potential. Good toys are made to do a whole lot more than that. Properly picked out products do things like inspire naughty ideas, increase sexual stamina and boost the knowledge you have about your own body. Armed with that knowledge you can then practice various techniques that can later be shared with your partner(s). If you don’t see how that can increase your pleasure vicariously then I don’t know what else to say to you. Team work makes the dream work and practice makes perfect. We learned all this in kindergarten.
- Double (or Triple) the Pleasure
The right sex toy for women (or a combination thereof) can provide you with multiple pleasure points and potential. Some of them feature multi-function designs that offer double or even triple sensations – dildos with vibrations, vibrators with clitoral stimulators, anal beads with pussy pads, you get the picture. Often, we forget about how gloriously complex the female body is but today’s sex toy manufacturer has not. Let yourself get carried away in what ergonomics specialists have discovered in the last few decades. You’d be surprised by what feels good, especially if your only female sex toy experience is with a standard, single-function dong.
- Erotic Experimentation
Having the things you need in the kitchen is of primary importance when completing a recipe. It’s essential when building an engine and it’s crucial to achieving a satisfying climax too. Properly acquired, high-quality female sex toys allow you and/or your partner to safely experiment in the sack without breaking monogamy boundaries or putting yourselves in danger. They let you fiddle with new technologies and troubleshoot intuition and intimacy problems in the privacy of your own home, plus they keep things as real as possible if you buy the right one. Remember, we don’t have to masturbate with chalk statues anymore and masturbation isn’t even considered taboo these days. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.
- Enhanced Romance
I like to think that all of the benefits mentioned before this one play a part in this one’s existence. Healthy experimentation, enhanced pleasure potential, adequate practice and the subsequently improved orgasms all work together to boost the passion in your romantic relationship (including Friends with Benefits unions, by the way). In essence, when you know that a truly satisfying orgasm is waiting you tend to get a little more excited about having sex and/or masturbating. And with so many modern-day sex toys for women being compatible with another toy, couples-only copulation has become more normalized and user-friendly than ever.
Meanwhile, ask yourself the following questions to determine your personal perimeters in terms of selecting and/or using the perfect female sex toy:
- What kinds of sexual experiences am I wanting to have?
- Will I be using this device by myself, with a partner, or both?
- Do I (or my partner) have any skin sensitivities or allergies?
- What’s my budget and does it include the cost of maintenance, supplies and accessories?
- How often do I plan to use this new sex toy I’m about to buy?
Once you have those things clearly defined it will be easier and more logical to justify a preferential purchase of a female sex toy, no matter what it ends up being. The search isn’t over yet though. Knowing the options and knowing yourself is not enough to get by in this saturated market, unfortunately.
The Top 5 Ways to Tell If That Female Sex Toy Is Worth It or Not
You won’t be able to find a decent sex toy for yourself and/or your female companion unless you consider the following 5 things about each item that’s currently on your mind or in your shopping cart:
- The Size
Size is an incredibly important consideration, especially when it comes to sex toys that get inserted into your body. Whether we’re talking about length or width, the dimensions of the sex toys you choose need to be suitable to your unique body type. Look at insertable length and girth measurements then compare those numbers to your other sex toys or to your anatomy and comfort level if you have no base of comparison. Good sex toys for women will be proportionate to the female form in several ways, even and especially when that toy features extreme dimensions.
- The Shape
Shape is everything, and female sex toys don’t get a hall pass either. It all depends on whether you want something realistic looking or not. Some toys, like anal beads and clit suckers, couldn’t be life-like if they tried. Their hyper-realistic design is precisely what gives them the power that they have. To transform them into a shape that’s human-like would be a disservice to the entire category. However, the shape of the toy you choose needs to fit your anatomy regardless of its innate design. Real women have curves, and real sex toys for women have the ergonomics to match.
- The Materials
Contemporary female sex toys aren’t all made from skin-safe materials, even if they look like it or are advertised as such. Your unique skin type plays a significant role in how this all plays out in the bedroom. Those questions above are not frivolous wastes of time; skin sensitivities and/or allergies can make or break your plans. Furthermore, certain sex toy materials aren’t appropriate for certain kinds of lube. To prevent allergic reactions, choose sex toys that are made from hypoallergenic materials such as silicone, thermoplastic elastomer (TPE), polyvinyl chloride (PVC), stainless-steel, glass or a patented polycarbonate and use them with water-based lubes only.
- The Features
Most people go straight for the features when shopping for a new sex toy, so I don’t have to tell you how important they are. Still, the features on your latest conquest need to be conducive with many things, including your sex life, your experience level, your partner’s comfort level (where applicable) and your living situation. Loud devices, products that require special equipment, and large machines may not be a good idea in certain settings. Look for features that not only produce extreme pleasure but also support a discrete sex life. Many of today’s best toys are designed to blend in with the surroundings, or at least most of them come with a durable storage container. If not, you’ll either have to get creative or move on to a toy whose manufacturer understands the need for privacy.
- The Manufacturer
Speaking of manufacturers, did you know that some sex toy makers deliberately produce devices that can only be used with other toys in their inventory? There’s only one collaboration that I can think of (Fleshlight and Kiiroo), although their compatible/interactive sex toy selection is rather limited for the ladies. Either way, pay close attention to the manufacturer of the toys you like. Not only will that help you discover money-saving discounts and sales but it will also determine the kind of experience you’ll have if something goes wrong. Does the maker have good customer service and/or a money back policy? You do realize that your discernment makes a big difference, don’t you?
The Big Ten: My Top 10 Best Sex Toys for Women In 2019:
I’ve searched high and low to find the top ten best female sex toys. It wasn’t easy. There are tons of amazing products out there, and I’m sure this list won’t be suitable for 100% of the people who read it. However, I did my best to make the following top 10 list of female sex toys as inclusive as I could. Here are a handful of options to consider when you start your search. By the way, these are in no particular order:
#1 – The nJoy Eleven Stainless-Steel Dildo
BEST FOR TEMPERTURE PLAY
Realistic dildo fans may not understand the appeal of stainless-steel, but the sensations experienced during temperature play can be outstanding. The makers of the nJoy Eleven obviously know that, and it’s apparent they understand the needs of the female body as well. Their expertly sculpted dildo features a swooping, s-shaped shaft that measures 11 inches in total length (9 for insertion). This lightweight, waterproof and polished work of art is made out of 316-grade hollowed out stainless-steel and features a perfect detailing along its g-spot targeting curve. With two distinct bulbous tips and 6.5 inches in girth at its widest point, this sleek and sexy toy is not only unisex and couples-friendly but also sophisticated in its presentation.
PRO: It comes in a satin-lined leather clutch purse with a durable handle – a classy presence that’s perfect for gifting.
CON: It’s not harness compatible nor is it suitable for people who prefer dildos and/or sex toys with human-like features or materials
#2 – Pipedream Extreme Fuck Me Silly Ride On Dude
BEST FOR HANDS-FREE FUN
This extremely realistic male sex doll may be used sometimes by gay men, but it’s designed to meet the needs of the g-spot-baring female body. The skin-to-skin sensations provided by the Pipedream brand’s patented Fanta Flesh material is only the beginning. Use this skin-safe bad boy (and I mean that literally) to delve deep into your sexual fantasy reserves, with 7 insertable inches of rock-hard cock and 14 pounds of pure pleasure willfully waiting. The tapered, waterproof penis shaft offers 5.75 inches of girth at the top and 5 inches at the base, providing a noticeable insertion point that’s guaranteed to inspire orgasmic satisfaction.
PRO: This thing is extremely life-like, with a fleshy shaft, a pair of squishy balls and even a butt with an intact asshole for fingering or licking.
CON: It doesn’t feature anything special like vibrations or heating elements the way many male-oriented sex dolls do. Boo!
#3 – The Fun Factory Stronic Real Thrusting Vibrator
BEST FOR DEEP PENETRATION
This high-quality, high-tech sex toy is made by one of the best-known manufacturers in the industry – Fun Factory. Their female-friendly, g-spot attacking Stronic Real Thrusting Vibrator features a thrusting motor that uses patented technology to deliver authentic massages to the vaginal canal (or, I guess, the anal cavity as well). The USB rechargeable battery runs for almost two full hours and operates 7 different thrusting speeds and 3 distinct movement patterns. With a superbly detailed and tapered shaft that features a very slightly curved yet realistically bulbous head, the FF thruster takes self-induced orgasms to a whole new level by offering a waterproof, skin-safe design that’s suitable for almost any body type or comfort level.
PRO: It’s made from hypoallergenic silicone and offers 4.75 inches in girth with an ample 5.5 inches of insertable length.
CON: The built-in controls may not be ergonomically placed for some people, especially those with mobility limitations.
#4 – The UPRIZE RC Erecting Dildo Vibrator
BEST FOR REALISTIC EXPERIMENTATION
A nice alternative to a full-sized or even partial male sex doll, the industry-leading bionic UPRIZE remote controlled dildo vibrator features all the life-life characteristics you want in a fleshy fuck stick – 6 insertable inches of thick dick at the touch of a button, 6 inches of girth to cram inside you, proportionately angled ergonomics all over, an extremely flexible shaft to wiggle on, and a set of soft balls for bouncing – all powered by a USB rechargeable motor and covered in a hypoallergenic, waterproof silicone-based material that’s been patented by the manufacturer. The entire thing is couples-friendly too, with a wireless remote control to manipulate the 10 vibration functions with a partner.
PRO: It has a suction cup base for improved and enhanced sex/masturbation sessions.
CON: The battery life only lasts for about an hour with a full charge, which may not be enough time for some women to reach more than one orgasm.
#5 – The Tantus Feeldoe More Strapless Strap-On Dildo
BEST FOR MULTI-TASKING
Wanting more out of your sex toys is never a bad thing. At least that’s what the makers of the Tantus Feeldoe More believe. This strapless strap-on dildo gets inserted snugly in your/your partner’s bum to secure the attached dildo in an erect position. The dildo, by the way, offers 7.5 inches of insertable length and 5 inches of total circumference at its widest point. Featuring a uniquely shaped shaft, bulbous head and a hole for a detachable vibrating bullet, this sexy and sophisticated silicone sex toy has become a top selling item in the industry since its inception, now seen as ideal for lesbian love affairs, male-on-male action or kinky experimentation,
PRO: The manufacturer includes a removeable vibrating bullet for the toy’s base and, with or without the bullet, the entire thing is 100% waterproof.
CON: The bullet is a single speed, low-power contraption that’s best suited for people who don’t need intense vibrations to reach orgasm.
#6 – The Clone-a-Willy and Balls Kit
BEST FOR COCK CUSTOMIZATION
Not finding what you want on the modern-day market or searching for something that hits a little closer to home? The Clone-a-Willy and Balls Kit may be just the thing for you. It features everything you need to mold the penis and balls of your dreams into a fuckable female sex toy that can be integrated with the included vibrating bullet. Use the specially developed forming material that’s made from a platinum-cured silicone to replicate your favorite mate and then masturbate like you’re on a hot date. Okay, so I’m not a poet, but my point is still clear: This amazing self-pleasure produce inspires mind-tingling orgasms through its hyper-realistic shape and size and it’s multi-speed vibrator that’s controlled by the wired remote attached.
PRO: It’s perfect for all body types, harness compatible, and uses simple instructions to do something incredible with your partner’s genitalia.
CON: The molding process can be somewhat messy, it’s not waterproof, and it requires 2 x AA batteries that are not included.
BEST FOR ANAL TINGLES: The Lelo Hugo SenseMotion Prostate Massager
Smooth, soft, silicone and sexy, the Lelo brand has done it again with their unisex Hugo. This expertly developed prostate massager uses their patented SenseMotion Technology to deliver intense sensations to the p-spot. The u-shaped curve of this toy makes it ideal for dual penetration in women – g-spot and p-spot stimulation simultaneously. The wireless remote control only adds to the experience, with a component that instantly responds to the movement of the wielder’s hand and a set of 6 pre-programmed vibrations, a bulbous tip and a USB rechargeable battery as the cherry on top. I haven’t even mentioned the fact that it measures 4 inches in circumference and offers 5.5 inches in insertable length, but you probably already have it in your shopping cart so what’s the point?
PRO: This toy is appropriate for individuals and/couples from all experience levels and it offers a substantial 2-hour battery life with every 60-minute charge.
CON: It’s sort of loud and requires a stash of 2 x AAA batteries for the wireless remote.
#7 – The We-Vibe Womanizer Duo
BEST FOR CLITORAL STIMULATION
Siphon pleasure from parts of your body you didn’t even know you had with this sexy self-stimulation device designed to “womanize” the clitoris and g-spot simultaneously. Explore the 12 distinct levels of intensity and/or play with the 10 vibe modes to find the setting that suits you most. The firm yet flexible insertable portion is covered in skin-safe silicone, and the powerful clit cup is as well. Using the brand’s patented Pleasure Air Technology, the rechargeable We-Vibe Womanizer Duo generates thick, sticky orgasms and offers a completely waterproof design for safe and satisfying waterboarding of your vagina while experimenting with the 4.25-inch circumference and 5-inch insertable length.
PRO: This whisper-quiet bad boy uses a Smart Silence function which only turns on the toy when it gets close to your body.
CON: The built-in controls make it difficult to use with a partner and the untextured shaft may not be stimulating enough for some users.
#8 – Lelo Insignia Soraya
BEST RABBIT VIBRATOR
Luxurious and lovely, the Lelo Insignia Soraya is a classy girls’ best friend. Encased in a sleek and seductive silicone body, this fabulous rabbit vibe features a 5-inch insertable shaft and a tiny nub to stimulate your clitoris simultaneously. With two motors that work individually to create a fully customizable experience, users can freely explore the 8 vibration settings or set the convenient travel lock for easy and discreet access to orgasms abroad. The device is USB rechargeable and 100% waterproof so no need to stop for cleanliness when you’re getting dirty. The shaft is perfectly rounded for all body types and you get 4 hours of play time with every 2-hour charge, not to mention a little sample of personal lubricant with every purchase.
PRO: Each device comes with an unheard of 10-year warranty registration card.
CON: The included satin storage bag is good for discretion but won’t keep the toy secured, protected or intact. Invest in something else.
#9 -The Pipedream Extreme Male Sex Doll
BEST FOR REALISM
Don’t you know that sex dolls are made for girls too? The well-known Pipedream Extreme brand offers a super realistic male sex doll that will most certainly get you off, if not make you fall in love. This headless horseman is not only unisex but it’s also ideal for satisfying threesome fantasies without causing a breakup. Ride his 8-inch Fanta Flesh dick while bouncing on his two firm balls. He offers up his tight little textured anus too, plus his dual-layered penis stays erect even while you enjoy its relative flexibility. His sexy, sculpted, 6-pack-having body is safe for all skin types and can even be taken into the showers with you.
PRO: It features a convenient hole in the base for quick and easy cleaning, comes with some free sex toy cleaner and a sample of water-based lubricant too.
CON: This heavy-duty dude may be a bit too heavy for some users to maneuver without a little help.
The End Game
Picking out a female sex toy is no longer a matter of going to the doctor’s office with an inflated list of excuses you jotted down out of desperation. Ladies of all sexual persuasions can finally enjoy the cornucopia of kink that’s offered by the contemporary sex toy industry. Choosing which product is best from the options is the hardest part. As long as you find something that’s safe and satisfying sexual experience for you and/or your partner (hopefully more than once), that’s all that matters. And if that takes a multi-function, luxury-grade sex toy made specifically for women, then so be it. The female orgasm is a real thing, even if some guys still don’t want to acknowledge it as they give us two pumps and a mash-down.
I’m Rori. I’m glad you’re here with me on this crazy journey.
Since this is a sex blog, most of the content relates to the men (and women) in my life. I’ve divided my life over the last five years into little “chapters” to help you catch up on the story and the cast of characters involved.